If something feels “off,” it probably is.
The engineering concept of tolerance—the range a measurement can deviate without compromising a system—is a perfect metaphor for life and work. Our tolerance has limits. Going beyond them isn’t noble; it’s harmful.
Too often, we shape-shift, self-silence or endure more than we should, mistaking tolerance for strength. Exceeding limits weakens the system. In life or work, it leads to burnout, resentment, disempowerment and declining performance.
When tolerance is exceeded—whether due to a toxic work dynamic, misaligned role, or ongoing underperformance—individuals, teams and organisations begin to break down. Motivation drops, team efficiency suffers and organisational momentum stalls.
The good news? Recognising and respecting your tolerance limits can either improve the situation—through dialogue, compromise or recalibration—or free you to move on. The key is knowing when enough is enough
1. Pay Attention to Lingering Discomfort
Persistent agitation is your signal. If you’ve tried adapting or compromising and see no change, you’re nearing your tolerance threshold. Trust your instincts—they’re usually correct.
2. Assert Your Needs
You have the right to your standards, outcomes and boundaries. Communicate them confidently. Set expectations and define consequences when your needs aren’t met.
3. Watch for Creeping Normalcy
Small, negative changes often accumulate into an unacceptable “new normal.” Assess where you’ve drifted from what you value, expect or once stood for. The larger the gap, the greater the risk.
Tolerance is valuable—but only within limits. Know where the line is. Honour it. And when the time comes, don’t be afraid to say: That’s enough.
Copyright 2022 Robin Elliott